INTRO: I spent most of my adult life helping others until I realized that I was spending too much of my time helping others. How can that be? Isn’t helping others a good thing to do? Yes, it is, but not at the expense of being irresponsible and negligent of your own talents and goals in life. So, what was the real reason I was neglecting my own talent and goals? I had to face the fact that I was hiding behind my ‘helping’ to avoid facing my greatest fear – the fear of rejection and criticism of my poetry. I had to be brave like David and face my Goliath.
Surprisingly, my daughters were relieved and proud of the new direction I was committed to. I was no longer hiding behind housework and doing things for others in their homes that they were quite capable of doing themselves and preferred me out of the way. “Get a Life Beverley” was the message the winds of life were blowing my way. So, I did. I got in and focused on writing and sharing my poetry. I still help my family and friends a lot, but now I balance my time in a healthy way. Beverley Joy
No matter what age or life path you pursue
It’s never too late to start something new.
Excuses, excuses, don’t give me excuses
I’m too old, too young, too stuck in my ways
It’s too late, it’s too soon to try something new.
Stop aimlessly bobbing in the ocean of life
Tossed this way and that out of your control
Start swimming with purpose in your stroke
Like a swimmer, cuts through the rough surf.
Unblock your fear of what people might think
Like turning on a hose that was once blocked
Once the blockage is gone, the water flows
And you will nourish and refresh wherever you go.
Curiosity can influence every part of your life
In your work, hobbies, and relationships
So, live in wonder and awe, eager to know more
A curious attitude will open closed doors.
We can spend too much time living for others
Supporting and working for their dreams and goals
I was doing this to avoid sharing my poems
For fear of rejection and disapproval.
I struggled with jealousy and frustration
Watching others achieve their dreams and goals
But, while I was helping, I could remain selfish
And not take responsibility for my gift.
It’s not fair to others when we are thinking
Negative thoughts about them and their talent
We’re not being true to ourselves or our family and friends
Letting fear of our goals sap our creative energy.
It’s healthy to set boundaries, for their sake and yours
And live a balanced life that includes your own goals
Bring your goals to the front and centre of life
DO IT NOW. START TODAY. Your family will say thanks.
Beverley Joy © 2022 Simply Story Poetry. All Rights Reserved.
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