Let’s Talk Self-Talk

A poem about how I changed my negative self-talk to positive self-talk

INTRO: This poem was inspired by one of the first self-development books I had ever read, way back in 1994 ‘You Were Born Special, Beautiful, and Wonderful: What Happened? by Bert Weir. I had left full-time work, four years earlier, to be a full-time mum. One day I went to a network marketing women’s breakfast and Bert Weir was the guest speaker.

After hearing his explanation of how self-talk affects our behaviour, both for the good and the bad, I was so excited to get home and start reading it. This book was a life-changer for me. I did the exercises he suggested in the book. I followed his method of recording, in a pocket-sized notebook, any negative self-talk and behaviour at the time of saying or doing them. During the day, I took time out to think up a positive statement and then write it underneath the negative statement that I had previously recorded that day in my notebook.

I did this for one month, as recommended by Bert. Each time I went to say or do the negative talk or action, I stopped myself and replaced it with the new positive way. At the end of the first month of doing this exercise every day, I had changed, for the better, many bad habits both in my self-talk and my general behaviour. I still use this method to this day. Beverley Joy

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“Hey, you in the mirror

Yes, I’m talking to you

Why do you look so tired and glum?

What’s the matter with you, cat got your tongue?”

“Who are you?” I asked, “What’s it to you how I look or feel?”

“Come on, what’s the deal?”

“My name is Self-Talk, I live in your mind

I look out to the world through your eyes

I am your voice, I speak your thoughts

You think, say, and do what I tell you too.”

With hands-on-hips and my head held high

I spoke with pride in my reply

“You don’t have that much control over me”

“I am the master of my destiny.”

With a smirk, my mirror reflection said back

“No, you’re not, I pull your strings

I reveal what you truly think.”

“You may dress up on the outside

Put on makeup and fine clothes

But when you speak of yourself

You often dress yourself down?”

“What I tell you may be false or true

It depends on what your parents taught you

Your teachers, relatives, the media, your peers

And bullies who mistreated you over the years.”

“The things I say that you recognize

Come from the conscious part of your mind

But things I say that you’re not aware of

Come up from the depths of your subconscious.”

“I’m just a recording of what you believe in

When I parrot “You’re stupid, you’ve failed again

Or you can’t do that, you can’t think straight”

 It leaves you powerless to make mistakes.”

“I also talk through your body language

When you look tired, happy, or indecisive,

Strong, impatient, angry or in fear

The world around you knows it, for they can see.”

“Are you aware of your facial expression?

When you are going through the motions

In everyday life, well, do you frown or smile?

While you work, walk, or wait in the checkout line?”

“Here’s a few things from your memory bank

“Get out of my way, I’m running late.”

You say to your family as you run for the gate

Disorganized and frustrated yet again.”

“Now, rewind that scene. What emotion did you feel?

Frustration, fear, or guilt?

Were you mad, upset, or sad?

How did your family members react?”

“Can you think of a better way you could have behaved?

Get a notebook and write those words down

Then say it, see it and feel it; smile don’t frown

Reenact the scene how you would prefer it to have been.”

“I’m running late.” No, don’t say that

Say “I am always ready in plenty of time.”

“I can’t find my keys.” Oh, no, please

Say “I always know where to find my keys.”

When you hear yourself being negative,

STOP, rewrite it, say it, see it, feel it

It takes 21 days to change a habit

Whether the habit is good or bad.

You can trick your brain

Which only remembers what you tell it

Your brain is like a filing cabinet

It can only open files that are stored in it.

With a small notebook in your hand

Record what you think and say

Change one or two things a day

Or more, to fast track your change.

Make this next month, count

Speak kindly to yourself

Become your own best friend

Soon your self-talk will mend.

It’s your day, it’s your energy,

You can choose how to spend it

Negative self-talk drains energy and time

Yet, healthy self-talk conserves them in kind.

What you think and say you become

Perpetuating more of the same

Thoughts precede words, words precede action

Action precedes habit, and habit precedes character.

It’s never too late in life to make a change

Get professional help if you feel overwhelmed

To change how you talk to yourself

Start today the 30-day challenge.

Stop what you’re doing and think about it

Write down the negative self-talk

Change it to a good alternative

Then old talk habits will become new.

Write it down

Say it out loud

See yourself saying it

Feel your confidence build.

Keep on correcting yourself

All-day ’til its automatic

Change one or two phrases at a time

Repeat this process all day long.

Be kind to yourself, be your own best friend

Change your self-talk, make amends

Value your precious time and energy

Think before you act and speak.

Beverley Joy © 2021 Simply Story Poetry. All rights reserved.

Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

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